Patience
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Now breath…
You’ve made it this far, so it’s time to slow down, take a step back, and find your patience.

Reading this at a slower pace will help more information to stay with you.

This is you starting to become more patient.

We’re going to go deep into the importance of patience. Understand what it does, how it can help us, and what we can do to live a more patient life. Realising that impatience is rooted in frustration can help you to understand how to be patient. Remember, it’s okay to take your time. The world can sometimes run at full-speed for too long, but that doesn’t mean you have to.

To begin, we’re going to answer the following question.


Why is patience important?

There are a number of benefits from being patient. It is good to understand that there are different forms depending on what or who you’re interacting with. The main distinction to look out for is patience with people or with things. Things relate to tasks, work, or exercise for example. Being patient with people can guide you to become trustworthy and this helps to grow lasting and meaningful relationships.

Empathy for people

Firstly, being patient with the person you’re talking to promotes active listening. Giving the other person time to speak allows all their thoughts to be heard. Then it’s your turn to express your thoughts. This mutual respect leads to trustworthiness, the key to a healthy relationship.

Workplace relationships are a great example. The culture in an office can greatly benefit from a patient team. There are many situations at work that require patience. Staying later to finish a project, talking with a difficult client, or being held back because of a less-equipped employee. Patiently embracing these situations shows your ability to continue and deal with potential hurdles. 

Communicating your needs clearly and without haste creates a positive image in the eyes of your superiors. Gaining their trust is the best step towards professional success. And from your point of view, you’ll probably enjoy the working day more if you can treat it calmly. Communicating your needs clearly and without haste creates a positive image in the eyes of your superiors.


Self-control

During the ‘Five Million Steps In Asia‘ challenge, I created a system of small targets to accomplish and reward myself on an hourly basis. For example, an energy bar after 30 minutes, that’s a reward. Treating yourself patiently will help you to be more patient. And by accepting splitting goals into small targets, you can control your own development. Take the time to concentrate on each task and feel confident that you’ve committed to this.

Patience is great for regulating emotions, thoughts and behavior. Helping you to communicate with difficult people with empathy instead of frustration. Focusing your thoughts to guide your decisions and be more emotionally organized. Support you to make the decisions towards a better version of yourself.

Slowing down will make you faster

Before running ultra-long distances, I would run for one hour, 4 or 5 times per week. My average speed was around 6 miles per hour (ca. 10 km/h). Considering the past 18 years and all the painful injuries I have sustained, I had my doubts. Doubts about whether I would succeed in running 7,000 miles (11,265.41 km). In March 2018, I visited a physiotherapist who explained to me how my joints functioned. After more studying, I set up my one-year training program with a focus on my knees. 

Since then, I don’t even know my knees exist. It took me 17 years to really understand my body. Now I’m regularly slowing down to take as much time as I need to relax and to rest. Learning how to resolve issues with my knees has made me think in general terms about my personal and professional life. It is common for humans to go through cycles of quick success. But in fact, these usually lead to long-term failure. Give yourself time to do a task right in the first place, then you won’t have to go back it later.

When life becomes stressful, we tend to forget that we actually should slow down. Make an assessment and check off our status. Find out where we have unused potential and where to direct our focus. Make the necessary corrections as they come up, and put our progress back on track.

Persevere and stop procrastinating

As mentioned in my previous post ‘The 4 Habits Hierarchy to Stop Procrastinating’, patience is a vital player in the hierarchy. The most challenging part of every task is to start. That’s because we don’t know where to begin. Our mind is playing games with us and applying delay tactics. And in this case, patience is about accepting delay or problems without becoming annoyed. 

Building a thick skin made from the willingness to endure and the ability to continue. Accepting your procrastination is part of building patience. And if you’re frustrated, take a step back. Obviously, not procrastinating is easier said than done. But by understanding that you are delaying the inevitable (unless you never want to complete the task), you have made progress.

Now that we understand how vital patience is for our personal development. Let’s use this knowledge to learn how to be more patient. There are a number of relatable techniques to use in your everyday life. Certain environments you can use to grow instead of feeling frustrated.


How to be more patient

1.) Stand in a queue

It might sound ridiculous but waiting in a long queue can be the perfect environment to practice patience. There are people around you can communicate and empathize with. You have time to enjoy the now, maybe separate your mind from the situation.

A study published by Psychological Science shows the connection between waiting for things and long-term happiness. Consumers actually find value in the anticipation of an event. But some people find waiting for things a frustrating experience. I understand this but if you view the wait as a practice exercise, it changes the experience completely. Who knows, you might even enjoy talking with someone in the queue and make a friend.

It might sound ridiculous but waiting in a long queue can be the perfect environment to practice patience.

2.) Take a step back and breath

As we practiced at the start of the post, remember to take regular deep breaths can help to calm the mind and the body. More oxygen flows through your body and into your brain to activate the muscles. Your focus will increase and your ability to process thoughts. 

If you’ve got a lot on your mind at the moment, take 5 or 10 minutes away from this screen to breath. Long and deep breaths will clear your mind and provide clarity.

3.) Enjoy each moment

Getting a regular view on your current status provides an ability to implement short term actions. These a necessary to move toward your long term goal and will make it enjoyable instead of stressful. 

Recognizing your progress at least once a week is very powerful. Reward yourself for the little things and live in the now. By doing so you can build motivations and re-establish ambitions. It helps to decide where you should direct your focus to keep moving forward. And by slowing down, you’ll stay more on track with your tasks. 


What Next?

I hope you’ve had the time to take some deep breaths during this blog post. If you haven’t, there’s no time like the present. After a short breathing interval, you’ll probably want to thank me for helping you to clear your mind and feel your body.

If you have any patient building techniques of your own, feel free to leave a comment below. And if you’d like to hear my thoughts and advice more often, Sign up to the email list for regular blog updates.

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